God, Why Won't You Do This For Me?

Have you ever been in a place where you felt as though you were striving to live for God; you weren’t perfect, but you were really trying. You were seeking after God and you were intentional about doing things the right way. You were really trying, yet you had this issue…this thorn in your flesh as apostle Paul called his, this thing that you just couldn’t seem to shake and with a heavy heart and tears in your eyes you asked God, “Why won’t You take this from me?” “Why won’t You heal me?” “Why won’t You help me to overcome this?” “God, why won’t You do this for me?” The thing is, you’re not coming from a place of anger or even pride, but it’s from a place of brokenness in your heart. You think to yourself God I’m not upset with You, I promise I’m not angry with You. I believe You to be God and I know that You can do this…I just don’t understand why You won’t God. I don’t expect You to fix it just because I’m living for You but I have faith that You can God  and I just want to know that my faith isn’t in vain…God I trust You and I believe You to be who You say You are…God please take this from me… 

Have you ever been in that place? It might be hard to admit that you have been but there’s a beauty in being real and honest with God. In our honesty with God, He reveals Himself to us and answers our questions in ways that we likely did not expect. I had a moment today where I asked God why won’t You do this for me. Why does this have to be my issue? Why does this have to be my thorn in my flesh? God…why won’t You do this for me? His response was in the form of a question as well; am I not still God even if I don’t? If I don’t do this for you am I not still God? Sometimes in the midst of our hurt, pain, frustrations, and everything else that our little emotions like to pull on, we forget that the fact that God has not done it for us is not equivalent to Him not being able to. We know that He can do all things but that's not really the question at hand. The real question is what are you going to do if He doesn’t do it? How are you going to respond even if He does not move on your behalf during what you feel is your time of need? 

Let’s take a moment and look at apostle Paul as he talks about having a thorn in his flesh.

If I wanted to boast, I would be no fool in doing so, because I would be telling the truth. But I won’t do it, because I don’t want anyone to give me credit beyond what they can see in my life or hear in my message, ⁷ even though I have received such wonderful revelations from God. So to keep me from becoming proud, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger from Satan to torment me and keep me from becoming proud.⁸ Three different times I begged the Lord to take it away. ⁹ Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. ¹⁰ That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong (2 Corinthians 12:6-10, NLT).

Apostle Paul begged the Lord, he pleaded with the Lord, to take this thorn away from him. God, why won’t You do this for me? Every time His response to Paul was “My grace is sufficient for you.” Each time that Paul asked God to take it away I can imagine God saying Paul, don’t you understand? Do you not get it? My strength is made perfect in your weakness Paul. I see what you’re going through Paul. I feel what you’re going through Paul. I know you’re uncomfortable Paul. I know you don’t understand why you have go through this Paul. I know you want Me to take it away from you Paul. But I want you to know that My grace is all you need Paul. Now put your name everywhere that you see Paul’s name…

God is asking us do we really believe that His grace is sufficient? Do we really believe that it is still enough as we go before God asking Him why He won’t do this for us? God needs us to realize that it’s enough. It is more than enough. In the moments of weakness, it’s enough. In the moments of pain and discomfort, it’s enough. In the moments of frustration and uncertainty, it’s enough. It is enough; His grace is enough; God is more than enough. Trust me when I say I know it can be difficult to be in a place where you feel like you keep running into a brick wall as you keep dealing with the same issue that it seems like it just won't go away or get better. But are we responding as though we believe that God's grace is sufficient and that it is made perfect in weakness? Just as we have faith that God can change the situation or make it better, we must also have faith in His response that His grace is sufficient. We must really believe that it is enough...even for our issue. Until God gives us a different response we must learn to rest in the truth that His grace is all that we need.

As people who are self sufficient it can be difficult to be in a situation that you have no control over. It can be beyond frustrating to have to face a situation that you cannot fix or make right yourself. God says My grace is sufficient. He wants you to know that you don’t have to carry this weight by yourself. Stop holding on to it and all the mess and emotions that come with it. Give it to God today and tell Him whether He does this for you or not He is still God and you trust that His grace is more than enough. For when we are weak, then we are strong… 

Reminders:

• Don't forget to check out the Changed Hearts website www.changedheartsunited.com 
• You can watch the Singles With Purpose Online Conference here: 
• You can find all of the monthly teachings, vlogs, Changed Hearts: Real Talk and Q&A's on my YouTube channel: www.youtube.com/user/AngelWalston
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Tips For The Single Season

As I stated during the Singles With Purpose online conference, I asked a couple of my fam in Christ if they could give singles some advice for their single season what would it be and this is the response that I got! This is the full list of responses that I got which is a little bit more than what I shared on during the conference. Hope this helps :) 

1. Refuse to play the comparison game. Stop looking at all the people your age and what they're doing, whether they are married or just got engaged. 

2. Take your eyes off people and fix your eyes of Christ.

3. Get involved in the Singles Ministry at your church. No Singles Ministry at your church, maybe God is calling you to start it.

4. Get busy for God. Stay Kingdom minded.

5. Don't waste this season, start that ministry God has pressed upon your heart, write that book, blog, go on that mission trip, etc. 

6. Realize that marriage is not a prerequisite for purpose or ministry. 

7. Make friends with other single Christians that live by Hebrews 10:24, "And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds."

8. Be mindful of boundaries between women and men. Set boundaries.

9. Fully grasp that fulfillment and completeness is found in an intimate relationship with God not a man/woman. 

10. Say no to randoms. You know that man ain't your Boaz.

11. Don't settle. Wait on God's best for you.

12. Don't date just to date with no real purpose in mind. 

13. If they don't recognize your worth, chuck up them deuces.

14. Recognize that you have purpose no matter what your relationship status is. 

15. Spend crazy amounts of time with God. Get in His presence.

16. Go to a conference.

17. Don't be stagnant, make sure you are growing spiritually. 

18. See this season for what it truly is...a gift.

19. Read books on the single season. Ladies I strongly recommend you read Lady in Waiting by Jackie Kendall and Debby Jones.

20. Do things that you wouldn't normally do like going to plays, ballets, etc. also 

21. Working out and eating right because not only will that keep you healthy, you'll be more effective for the kingdom and you'll become confident.

22. Learn how to say "no" to suitors that you just know aren't God's best for you. It may get tempting to go out with them because they're a christian but if you know they aren't it then don't waste time.

23. Ask yourself "then, what?" Or find the "then what" moments in your mind...ex:you work for a six pack then what? You have a great body then what? Basically looking at contentment and desires.

24. Daily challenge your definition of or redefine success/fulfillment by your own standard and GOD'S. (No one else)

25. Try something like going to movies or lunches alone.

26. Travel; be spontaneous, try the things you always wanted to try.

27. Be around married people to see what it's really like.

28.  Artistic expressions, reading- not just christian books but all types of books.

29. Find out what you like and don't like about yourself, about life, in others.

30. Take a cooking classes, finishing a degree or 2, start a business, take random classes at a local community college.

31. Run a marathon, join sports teams, get involved in other clubs or groups.

32. Get to know YOU. Fall in love with God and be selfish with your time. Do the things you've always wanted. Create a bucket list and knock those things down.

33. Seek God and get accountability.

34. Have date nights with Jesus and yourself. 

35.Learn a new skill, volunteer with your favorite charities/organizations.

36. Ask God to show you His purpose and focus on growing your gifts.

37. Be content with your portion, have an accountability/prayer partner.

38. Pray & study the Word intentionally & continuously.

39. Find other single friends to hang out with.

40. Loving yourself is a big one, everyone says that they love themselves, but I mean like really embracing who you are, to be happy with yourself & be you despite what people say! 

41. We all have a past & a lot of the singles haven't moved on from the past. It keeps us stuck, it didn't let us be who we're supposed to be, it makes the season we're in longer.

42. Not paying attention to society. Society says that men have no self control that they can't control their hormones! But that's not true! Guard your heart! Society says that women are emotional, I know that that's not true! All these things keep us from being happy and from experiencing real peace. 


Watch the full Singles With Purpose conference here!: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JT6DVONydac

Changed Hearts Healthy Living Challenge Recipe: Chicken & Shrimp Kabobs

With this recipe, I pretty much created it as I was going! FYI I don't do a very good job of using measurements when I create my own recipes; I just sprinkle as I go. Due to this I don't have actual measurements for the seasonings so for everything listed just moderately cover the meat and veggies with  your favorite spices and marinade!

Ingredients: 

• Boneless skinless chicken tenderloins (you can also use regular chicken breasts, this what just what I had in the fridge!)
• Green peppers
• Red peppers
• Yellow peppers
• Orange peppers
• Cherry tomatoes
• Sweet onion
• Zucchinni 
• Squash
• Lowry's Herb & Garlic Marinade
• Garlic powder
• Onion powder
• Basil leaves
• Oregano
• Cayenne pepper (a very little bit)
• Old bay seasoning (only on the shrimp)
• Soul seasoning

Directions: Cut up all of your veggies into squares so that they will fit on the skewers. The shrimp don't have to be cut but the chicken should be cut into at least 3 pieces (4 for larger chicken breasts). Combine seasonings in a bowl with the Herb & Garlic marinade and let each veggie and the chicken and shrimp soak in the combination. Add the meat and veggies on to your skewers in whatever sequence that you like and then grill for 20 minutes. I use the Big Boss Grill, so be sure to set your time based on the heating of your grill settings You can also bake them in the oven as well! It tastes best if you allow the skewers to sit in the marinade for a few hours or overnight.

I paired it with rice with peas and carrots and steamables asparagus in Szechuan sauce.


Join the Changed Hearts Healthy Living Challenge for the month of October here!








 

Reminders:

• Don't forget to register for the Changed Hearts: Singles With Purpose Online Conference here!
• Don't forget to check out the Changed Hearts website www.changedheartsunited.com 
• You can find all of the monthly teachings, vlogs, Changed Hearts: Real Talk and Q&A's on my YouTube channel: www.youtube.com/user/AngelWalston
• Contact: 
• Facebook: Angel Walston
• Twitter: @AngelCheron
• Instagram: @angel_cheron 
• Email: changedheartsquestions@gmail.com

Changed Hearts: Healthy Living Challenge Recipe: Mason Jar Salads

The mason jar salad idea is super easy and convenient! Depending on what size salad you want, you can get bigger or smaller mason jars to fit your meal. I chose medium size jars because I eat my salads before I eat lunch or dinner so I don't need it to completely fill me up. If you're looking for something that's more fulfilling or all you plan on eating is the salad, you would definitely want to go for a larger jar!

Ingredients: (In order of how it was added in the jar)

• Lite Raspberry Vinaigrette Dressing  
• tomatoes
• cucumbers
• blueberries
• red peppers
• yellow peppers
• spinach and kale mix
• walnuts

The most important thing to remember when doing a mason jar salad is to put your crunchy veggies in first that won't get soggy. The items that are more likely to get soggy should be the furthest away from your dressing. You may feel like you need to put a lot of dressing in to fill out the bottom of the mason jar but once you pour it out into a bowl you'll see that you really don't need a lot! You can always add meat to these, sliced eggs, and any other fruit! 


Join the Changed Hearts Healthy Living Challenge for the month of October here!

Reminders:

• Don't forget to register for the Changed Hearts: Singles With Purpose Online Conference here!
• Don't forget to check out the Changed Hearts website www.changedheartsunited.com 
• You can find all of the monthly teachings, vlogs, Changed Hearts: Real Talk and Q&A's on my YouTube channel: www.youtube.com/user/AngelWalston
• Contact: 
• Facebook: Angel Walston
• Twitter: @AngelCheron
• Instagram: @angel_cheron 
• Email: changedheartsquestions@gmail.com

Changed Hearts Healthy Living Challenge Recipe: Green Smoothie

If you're like me and you don't like coffee, this smoothie is a great alternative for caffeine that will give you the same energy boost! FYI it does look nasty but it does taste better than it will look.

Ingredients:

• 2 cups of almond milk
• 1 banana
• 1 orange (I used a navel orange)
• 1/2 cup raspberries (I used blueberries)
• 5 strawberries 
• 3 leaf fresh spinach (I used 2 handfuls of a mixture of spinach and kale)
• 2 ice cubes
• In addition to the above, I added a grannysmith  apple and flax seeds.

Directions: Wash your ingredients, cup them up and peel off the skin if needed, and blend away! It's easier to blend if you put the ice and any frozen fruit in first. 

Join the Changed Hearts Healthy Living Challenge for the month of October here!

 

Reminders:

• Don't forget to register for the Changed Hearts: Singles With Purpose Online Conference here!
• Don't forget to check out the Changed Hearts website www.changedheartsunited.com 
• You can find all of the monthly teachings, vlogs, and more on my YouTube channel: www.youtube.com/user/AngelWalston
• Contact: 
• Facebook: Angel Walston
• Twitter: @AngelCheron
• Instagram: @angel_cheron 
• Email: changedheartsquestions@gmail.com 

Changed Hearts Healthy Living Challenge: Yogurt Chicken Recipe

 I got this recipe from the yummly app which I would highly recommend for great recipes! It's really tasty, super easy to make, and most importantly good for your body. I made a few adjustments to the recipe which I will list in parenthesis! 

Ingredients:

• 4 boneless skinless chicken breasts (I used thin sliced boneless skinless chicken breasts)
• 6 oz low-fat plain yogurt (I used Dannon Oikos non-fat greek yogurt in vanilla)
• 1 lemon
• 1 cup dry bread crumbs (I used Japanese style panko seasoned bread crumbs by 4C)
• 1/2 tsp garlic powder
• 1/4 cup butter (I did not use butter at all but the butter probably would help to keep the breading to stay on a little better for the side that is on the pan)
• 1 tbs fresh parsley 
• In addition to the above I added basil leaves, crushed rosemary, and pepper.

Directions: 

• Preheat oven to 350 degrees
• Place yogurt in a small bowl and stir until creamy smooth. Add lemon and stir together. (Note: if you do not stir the yogurt first, the lemon juice will make the yogurt curdle). In a separate shallow dish or bowl combine the crumbs, garlic powder, and salt to taste; mix together. 
• In a 9/x13 inch baking dish place 1 scant pat of butter or margarine for each chicken breast. Rinse chicken breast and pat dry. Dip each breast in the lemon/yogurt mixture, then in the bread crumb mixture (coating completely but not heavily). 
•  Place coated chicken in the baking dish and top each breast with a full pat of butter or margarine. Sprinkle with copped parsley and bake in the preheated over for 1 hours (with thin chicken breasts you can do ~40 minutes). Let cook for 5-10 minutes before serving. 

This is the finished product! I paired it with steamables corn and garlic roasted broccoli (just mix olive oil, minced garlic, salt and pepper as needed for taste, and toss the broccoli in the mixture then bake for 15 min on 375).


Join the Changed Hearts Healthy Living Challenge for the month of October here!






Reminders:

• Don't forget to register for the Changed Hearts: Singles With Purpose Online Conference here!
• Don't forget to check out the Changed Hearts website www.changedheartsunited.com 
• You can find all of the monthly teachings, vlogs, and more on my YouTube channel: www.youtube.com/user/AngelWalston
• Contact: 
• Facebook: Angel Walston
• Twitter: @AngelCheron
• Instagram: @angel_cheron 
• Email: changedheartsquestions@gmail.com